I, human…we’re all connected

I was waking around asking people if they wanted to be part of the 8 question project,.and as usual I’m looked at funny and treated oddly. However, this time I found myself noticing some odd things and these spawned my thoughts here:

Ppeople want to stay in their own little pla#ce, they want to stay their own little worl-;d carrying on in their own little way. What happens when someone interrupts that moment or reality. This is what I got to witness today.

When you’re walking to a store from your car you have a prearranged plan of what you are going to do. It usually sounds something like this:

I’m going to GMax, then the dollar store, and then I have to get toilet paper, etc, etc….

So when someone interrupts this inner monologue and prescribed plan the person reacts one of three ways.

1. Fear. You get scared of someone coming at.you. Interesting enough, fear is taught to us. So who taught you to fear strangers? Mom, Dad, aunt, granny, teachers, or maybe lifetime movies. Regardless, you were taught to fear and your actions are only slightly your fault.  They will lash out, scream, or try to hurt you. This happened to me three times today.

2. Concerned. They are not scared of strangers, but they don’t know why people are the way.they are. They often become angry and are just generally put out. I was called a pervert, a sicko, and she alerted the entire store that I was out there.

3. Happy/courteous. These people are neat but most of the time they won’t answer the questions either.

Interupting people in their busy life is dfficult because you are interrupting their life. That’s what it comes down to. People get the most angry when they are inconvenienced or perceive you are impending their life in some way.

Lets think about this for a moment…people are getting bothered and angry that a fellow human being is wanting to commune with them in communication and friendship. Even when I began my conversation, I used my label and my profession, but it didn’t matter their fellow.human was not wanted!

When this observation dawned on me I was shocked. Then I thought about city streets and people walking side side and never.acknowledging their presence or even their humanhood. This is where we are.in this world…where we live in a world where everything is connected and we are one human family-yet nobody will admit it. Fear has taken us over, and we see it as normal.

As my girlfriend says:break the cycle. Say hello to a stranger or answer the man’s 8 questions. 🙂

8 questions with Karen

Thank You Karen for being part of the 8 question project!

I hope you, my dear reader, enjoy Karen’s views and ideas…and maybe learn something as well. 🙂

1. Karen

2. 67

3. five foot two with eyes of blue

4. Sunrise, FL

5. Do good deeds daily and you will be happier

6. No, God is my Father

7. I choose to be.

8. Stopping judging people for what they can’t change and love one another.

8 questions with JRey

Thank you JRey for being part of the 8 question project.

I hope everyone enjoys reading JRey’s viewpoints and ideas!

JRey

34 years old

I am a light-skinned, freckled woman with medium length brown/reddish hair. I have a round face that turns red easily when I am hot, embarrassed, or laughing. I have a few extra curves and am starting to be more comfortable with them. I am pretty tall at 5’7” and love to wear heels.

I live in South Florida but was born and raised on Long Island. This information is important because you can take the girl out of Long Island but can’t take the Long Island out of the girl.

Wow, what is the meaning of life? Isn’t this a question we would all like to have an answer to? I think we all have to find our own meaning since there is no confirmed universal answer to this question. I think the meaning of my life is to help others and make a positive impact in my community. I have poured myself into this throughout my work but now have the opportunity to raise a son in the same light. I want him to know that I am here to help him throughout his life. I want him to know that it is a goal of mine to raise a son who will be a positive, productive member of society. I want him to know that it is important to make a difference in the lives of others, even if the act is small. My life is meaningful to me because of these things, therefore is my meaning of life.

I am definitely afraid to die. My husband is not and his perspective is when it is your day, it is your day. I have a very hard time with that perspective since the impact of someone’s passing is so great on their surviving loved ones. Having lost my mother to cancer at the age of 20 (Mom was only 45), I know what it is like to live longing to talk to someone you love and miss every day. My fear is that I will leave someone feeling that loss was too soon. I know we all say someone’s passing is too soon but I want my son and husband to feel like I was there for the big stuff. I am afraid to die and miss all of those occasions for them the way my Mom missed them with me. I am also slightly afraid of the process of dying. I am afraid of the possibility of the process being painful and I am afraid of there possibly being nothing after this life.

I am happy because I have learned I can accomplish anything I set my mind on. I am happy because I have people in my life I love and care for that love and care for me. I am happy because I love my work; it isn’t work, it is who I am. I am happy because I am free to make my own choices. I am happy because I help others. I am happiest in my home with my little family, even when they are driving me crazy!

This is a tough question. There are probably a lot of messages I would like to give the world so narrowing it down to a message or an idea is challenging. If it were one thing I would give the world it would be this… Find yourself and BE your TRUE self!

8 questions with Sam

Hello Everyone!

With this new direction, I will be posting the answers to these questions, without the actual questions, so that everyone can see these answers. These are the preview to the book, please let me know what you think.  Each person will get a link to this blog…and their questions.

1. Sam

2. 51 or 52 depending whether you believe life begins at conception or birth. My mom had me a bit whacked on that one.

3. Stunning

4. On a lake near the ocean in Virginia Beach

5. My life specifically… clearly so God has something to amuse him when he’s drinking b

6. No. Seriously? If I believed in hell this would be it. The only thing missed is the constant attendance of my X2B mother in law and a Barry Manilow loop.

7. Great kids. Cool dog. Unique ability to make people chuckle.

8. Try not to invent your own truth.

The kindness of others

“The kindness of others always amazes me, and make me want to do kind things for others.” 

This was a comment I heard very recently. There was a younger man that was missing one leg and the other leg was horribly swollen. he was Crossing hey very busy street by using his very calloused very tired very sore hands. you spell halfway across the street when the light changed and his backpack fell off of his wheelchair. At that moment a young man  ran into the street dodging cars as he ran. You pick up the gentleman’s backpack and asked if he could push the man across the street. The man was adamant that he was able to push himself and nobody would push him. With that, the young man stop traffic. the man in the wheelchair he wheeled himself to the other side of the street. when he was safely across, young man ran over the man in wheelchair. The young man said, “thank you for letting me help you.” The man in the wheelchair looked at him oddly and asked what he wanted in return. The young man simply said…im just glad youre ok. With that the young man walked off.

That was when i heard the comment.

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Our society and culture is tired of the me me me me attitude that is so pervasive in our world right now. People act and say things that put out a message that says: it’s all about what I can get for me and my own,
I’m just trying to get what I deserve, I’m owed a certain amount of money and power,
you have to look out for number one
Money is power money is life

This viewpoint that things are more important than people, and you are more important than everybody else create a culture and society where nobody help anybody and we all drowned in the quagmire of selfishness. on a deep level everyone is tired of this way of doing things.

So why don’t we change it?

Because for the most part this is all me know. this is what we have been taught by parents, teachers, supervisors, mentors, the news, sports bars, especially movie stars, definitely rock stars, TV, movies, producers, and our friends. when is the point is all around you all the time other viewpoints she nodded and weird. you hold a lot of value in our belief of what normal is.

See we create normal as what we see and are taught by our parents as well as what we see all the time. The mere idea that something is odd or weird points out how connected we are to the sameness of our world, and what we consider normality.

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Therefore, we act out all the same ideas that perpetuate selfishness and a lack of kindness in our life. But we can choose to change this!

Take the original quote. What if we live our entire lives in such a way that we illicitied that response in everything that we do? what if those acts of kindness, in those acts that warm your heart that people do became something that we normally saw? Each act would inspire, motivate and perpetuate futurre acts.

This would create a ripple effect that could be felt for generations up on generations of generations.

By the way, I was the young man.