Do you believe in a solution this much

The other day I was asked how truly passionate I was. They asked me how far I really would go for a cause?

This is a good question, and I thought I’d put pout there to the motivating for positive change community. This motivating for positive change community are some the most positive people out there…and you’re increasing in numbers every day. I truly believe that we have the power to be a driving force in this community. Because we ARE the agents of change.


Since this is the basic motto for all people who are looking to change the world, the question is…how far would you go?

I go into a lot of venues be in civic organizations, school officials, teens, and corporations…and they all have the same ideas: something needs to be done. However, most of the people don’t want to actually do something or change their normal world to correct the problems.

So now we’re back to the same question….how far would you go?

Would I go as far as Michael Rosenberg?

Read his letter…

To the wonderful supporters of The Pets’ Trust…..

Starting the evening of October 5th 2012, while all of you are comfy in your beds…..I will be spending my first night in the cages of animal services. I will be surrendered just as any other animal is around 5:00 that evening.  It’s not going to be easy, but with our lack of funding, and trying to win a county wide election…there is just no choice. Animals Services has been extremely cooperative in preparing for this and we have two goals….

(1) Empty out the cages at Animals Services that weekend. Let’s have me…be the only living thing left…..if I survive!!

(2) Promoting the Pets’ Trust to the community as we have an election to win.

When I first thought of the idea of the Pets’ Trust, I had no idea it would lead to me living with the animals at some future date, which is now fast approaching. But, when I went to shoot the photos, I discovered that I will have some very nice and loving neighbors. So, late at night, when everyone is gone…and it is just me and the dogs…and cats….. we’ll just enjoy the evening, take in the fragrance…and await the next morning and hope enough visitors come to adopt everyone….and LEAVE ME.

Cesar Millan, who is quickly becoming a friend, sent me a short video. That was very kind of him.

Several people told me they will be bringing their children to witness this because it will be a great educational opportunity. So….spread the word

My couple of days in the cage, is nothing compared to the heroics of all the rescuers. You guys are the real heroes, and will continue to be rescuers after the Pets’ Trust wins. I just want to make sure it wins.

Here is his contact information…if you’d like to contact him…or just say Thank You. (If you do send him a letter or call him…please say thank you for me as well.)

Michael Rosenberg
President Pets’ Trust
6952 N.W. 12th St.
Miami, FL 33126
305 593 1211 ext 2227 office
305 439 3571 cell

But with all that said….this IS the story that inspired this post, but it also titled this post.

Do you believe in something enough to do this? Would you really sleep in a dog kennel to bring attention to the massive amount of pets that are in cages every year?

Would you spend a Saturday writing letters to companies that are exploiting women and young girls asking them to stop?

Would you create a petition on

Would you try to stop your entire community/neighborhood from ending plastic bag use?

Would you really go this far?   I would…and I hope you would to!

Stop Waiting!


We all yell for positive change.

We went out and voted on Nov 6 for the positive change to happen.

We watch the news and say to ourselves, something should be done about “that” (whatever “that” is).

Well….what are we doing?   We have to be the ones that make things happen!

1 person can change the world! Are you 1?


This blog post highlights the men and women fighting for the rights of people, and people fighting for the right to live.

This blog post by the ever impressive writer and activist  Shelba Waldron mentions the plight so many people stuck in the grips of poverty struggling and trying to get out. She makes a comment in the blog where she explains that:

My friend Chad actually believes that one person can change the world forever. I use to think he was naive, as well as a little crazy, but what I realized is that as I looked around me, I had a ton of friends already around me who believes the exact same thing. They are the reason I have found my passions and that I too believe I can change the world. I believe with all my heart that we can end poverty. I believe we can put an end to violence. I believe if we stop those two things, then everything else will get better exponentially. Poverty and Violence. That’s it. Ending poverty will help break the cycle of violence and thus change our economy, which will put that money into an educated nation, a healthy nation, and a nation filled with hopeful people. I can imagine for the first time in my life a place where words such as misogyny, rape, domestic violence, emotional abuse, molestation, and gun fire are not a part of our daily media, as an educated and peaceful world would have no use for it.”

The fact that she mentioned me floored me.

So here is my response to the article, my life, and my purpose in the world…as well as all of our purpose in the world.

I stand in awe to think I am included on this blog. Wow! Yes, I’ve watched policeman kill innocent men and women under the umbrella of “setting an example” because they couldn’t tell who was right and who was wrong. However, I’ve also seen a girl learn to read and then go about helping her entire illegal family become citizens, college graduates, and they now look at the scars from the strawberries they picked for 12 hours a day as merely a sign post tot he lift that they are currently living now.

As Our Paradigm stated, I do truly and utterly believe that 1 person can change the world. because when that 1 person does believe that they can, the belief becomes infectious…and the energy takes a life of its own, and other people start to see that it is possible too. When this happens, that one person has inspired many and the world does change.  It has happened again and again. This picture alone shows that this is possible…time and time again.

Yes, I watched a man get killed on my front porch because of gang violence. My house was a victim of a drive by shooting. Some of my best friends have since been slaughtered because they decided to “claim” or “rep” the wrong color or wrong side.

But what I did see is that these kids, there gangs were merely acting out the normality of our own culture. We are asked to pick sides all the time.  What country do you claim?  What state do you claim?  Was the “thing” that happened right or wrong?

Then I read articles like this, where a group of young ladies changed the way a million dollar magazine industry looks at women and pictures of women.

How many people did this?  1…that’s right…1

One young lady started it all.  Look at that, it actually happened. We are now watching change happen!

So I ask you:

Can we stop poverty?

Can we stop Domestic violence?

Can we stop rape and sexual assault?

Can we stop bullying?

Can we stop world hunger?

Can we stop war, needless killing, and the destruction of humanity?

Can we stop gender inequality?

Can we stop the complete destruction of our earth and the animals on it?



Look at the post articles on this blog. They highlight people who are doing just that.

So Shelba….can one person reinvent the world. Can one person change the world?

You are doing it…so it must be so!

What are you doing?




We must work to end bullying!

Another repost from “Our Pardigm”.

Bullying is an issue that is in need of dire help and support. The only people who truly understand bullying are the people who experience it or have experienced it in the past.

I could talk about my experiences, but that would just add to the countless numbers that are out there.

Bullying creates so much trauma in a life and a world where you’re suppose to be learning.

Bullying causes death, destruction, pain, low self esteem, and can last for the rest of the person’s life.

Please read this blog.

What happened to you?  Why should you care about bullying?

When God Walked Out of the Room: A Victim’s Perspective of Bullying

For the past several weeks I have been preparing to speak at the National Bullying Conference, an honor I have taken very seriously and with great pride. As most people realize, bullying is no longer a childhood game that takes place only on the playground.  Bullying is not the same as it was when we were growing up in the 50’s or even the 90’s and anyone who believes that it is, is grossly mistaken and highly naive. Bullying has made it to the national media as a cause for the gay community, immigrant community, the disabled, the poor, and many others.  Lady Gaga has made it her personal cause, along with countless celebrities and special interest groups.  Some are calling it the “cause of the week.”  The reality is this.  Bullying is not a cause for any special group to claim, because it is not an issue for one group to call their own. Bullying is a human issue. It’s a human issue based on ignorance and intolerance and one that is perpetuated by adults, who make children believe cruelty is a necessary part of life.

There are a couple of facts about bullying that those who believe it is just a natural part of growing up should know. Bullying is traumatic. It can create PTSD in the victim and fear in those who have to watch it.   Bullying doesn’t build character anymore than domestic violence makes a woman stronger. Bullying just like domestic violence tears the victim down, making them feel worthless, unsafe, untrusting, and fearful.  Bullying is not playground teasing, nor is it a natural part of childhood. Bullying as in domestic violence is abuse over the course of time, whose goal is to create a power imbalance between the victim and abuser.  Its intent is to tear the victim down to nothing until there is no hope left and until the victim sees life as a place where God has left them to suffer.

Until we see bullying as the abuse and cruelty it is, we will never move beyond the childhood playground and we will never truly allow the victims to heal and children to learn. Bullying as in domestic abuse comes in many forms, ranging from physical violence to verbal abuse to emotional cruelty. You can call it what you want, but in the end it’s all just alternate forms of violence with varying degrees of impact.  Many victims of this form of violence will tell you that being hit is easier than the ongoing destruction of their psyche and their soul.  Words have more of a destructive impact than physical violence, because when you are hit others can see the pain. Words aren’t as obvious and in a society where we celebrate cruelty, meanness, unhealthy competition, and misogyny through our media and specifically reality television, victims have no recourse but to pray for someone to take notice in a world where they believe God has walked away.

Victims of bullying struggle with their voice. Asking for help is not only difficult, but practically impossible. They fear ridicule, retaliation, and the loss of their dignity. We have to open our eyes and reach out with our hearts, but the first step is understanding as a society that bullying is violence with words and physical torture and it doesn’t discriminate. If you have never experienced bullying consider yourself lucky, but make sure you don’t judge the victim for not having the strength to endure the torturous words of abuse.  Just for one moment consider what it’s like to be told on  a daily basis for months on end that you are nothing and that you are hated.  You are stupid and fat.  You are a faggot and a slut.  You are a retard and your parents have hated you since you were born.  Everyone hates you and no one will ever find you pretty.  You are nothing and you will always be nothing.  You don’t have any friends and everyone is talking about you behind your back.  You are a loser!

Now be 13 and alone.  What would you do?  Who would you trust?

Misogynistic tendencies – do something to change this!

This is a blog post from a post called “Our Pardigm”, a blog i would suggest to everyone.

I was not able to reblogg this since it was from another blogging platform, but there’s really not more I can say than the blogger already said, so I reproduce it with full atributes going back to “Our Pardigm”

The Beauty Queen, The Concubine, and The Bitch: An Open Letter to All Women

“Misogyny…hard to spell…easy to practice”

To All Women:

We are coming upon another election year and with every new election cycle and every passing year, comes a much higher awareness of why I need to vote.  On August 27, 2012 the Republicans will descend on Tampa Bay and nominate who they hope will be the future President.  Regardless of party affiliation, that week is an important one. Simply stated, 92 years ago on August 24, 1920, Tennessee ratified the 19th Amendment, giving the necessary 36 states for the amendment to pass, thus giving all women the right to vote and although Mississippi chose to not ratify until 1984, women still had won a major battle of equality.  By all definitions, I can call myself a feminist. I’m also a liberal. I’m also a mother. To be more specific, I’m a working mother. I’m a daughter, a friend, a co-worker, an aunt, a cousin, and sometimes a Monday morning arm chair quarterback. I’m all those things.  I am first however, a woman and one that is very concerned about the direction we are headed in as a species. This post however is NOT an anti-Republican rant. There are too many of those around. This is also not going to be an anti-MAN rant. This letter is a plea for the women to stop giving the power away by accepting who they were brought up to believe they were by Disney, the magazines, television, their own culture, and for this generation, reality television.  Making women feel bad about themselves is an industry.  Money is made by making women feel the need to be saved and the need to be more than they are.  Industries are set up to make women believe they are ugly, old, fat, stupid, and yes, even two dimensional.  Well I’m here to say, STOP IT! You are not what they said you are.  This is your life and you should refuse to let an industry define you.  In other words and in the words from  the movie Fight Club, “This is your life and it’s ending one minute at a time.”  So…if that is the case, then why be defined by an industry while you live for this short time in history?

The Women’s Rights Movement throughout history has fought for and won the right to an equal voice in society, but I wonder how real it is. Domestic violence is up. Misogyny is at a pinnacle point in history and no one is talking about it. Women are created as two dimensional figures in the media and it’s getting worse. Sometime in the past few years we started seeing women on the sidelines during football games as more than just cheerleaders.  They are called sideline reporters, very pretty, dressed very well, doing the coaches interview at halftime as the “token woman” for the sport.  There is even a website called “”  Equality would have them sitting in the booth calling the game play by play and not being the two dimensional sex symbol that we all know governs male dominated sports. Closer to home, women are still bitches and ho’s without judgment through our music. I have worked with young women who actually are o.k. with being called that.  I always ask them, “What do you think the NAACP would do if we started using the “N” word as openly  on television as we use “ho” and “bitch?’ Even closer still, I hear friends speak about feeling like a single mom, while living in a married household. they work, primarily manage the children, and still keep the house. I heard a woman colleague once use the phrase, ” prostitute, nanny, and maid in my own home.” That means that you have sex when you don’t want to, but you do it to make your husband happy, just after cleaning the kitchen and putting the kids to bed.

These issues are real, but I question once again how much has changed. There was an episode of M.A.S.H., where Margaret transforms herself for a man she thought she could love, but the more she transformed herself into what he needed in a woman, the more he wanted her to be more of what she wasn’t.  I venture to say that she was probably one of the most complex and developed women we’ve ever seen on television and much less on a sitcom. In the ten years M.A.S.H. was on the air, she went from two dimensional Hot Lips, seeking love and affection in the arms of a married and callous man, to three dimensional woman who spoke about having a career in a world full of men, the hope for children, and the desire to keep her femininity while still holding a position of power.  At times she showed intense fear and vulnerability, while fighting for the rights of the women in her command.  All of this took place in the 1970’s’, set in the time of the 1950’s. It was a breakthrough for women and somewhere along the way we lost her to Snooki and Kim Kardashian.  As an avid M.A.S.H fan, I have grown to appreciate her more as the years go by.  She is all women, because her character takes us through a transformation from industry female bias to the real life all women live. My favorite episode is one where she tries to celebrate her birthday, while realising how far she hasn’t come in her life, but at the same time realizing who she really is.
I found this tribute to her on YouTube.  It’s worth the time to see the reality of a woman’s depth.

Someone once told me that there is no better hell than to be trapped inside the heart of a man, while living though the fear in both of your souls. I asked what that meant and she said that sometimes a man, no matter how well intentioned, will see a woman as a who he wants her  to be, because she has learned to fear who she can be.  Between the two, the woman never finds herself. We know that when the economy crashed and took many jobs usually held by men, that at the same time domestic violence went up.  This positioned many women as the singular breadwinner in the home and for some forced them into the workplace for the first time in years. In our society many men still feel a need to rescue and women need to be rescued. I don’t intend here to generalize and simplify what is not a statement for all men and all women. I do however know that in our culture, men are taught to  take care of the family financially, while women take care of the home. As far as we have come as a society, that belief still exists and denying it, is dangerous.  As someone who sits on the Domestic Violence Task Force, I have to wonder if the domestic violence rates went up, not because of the stress of money, but the reversal of roles.

Sex and money, the reversal of roles, women as the bread winner and men as the dominate parent don’t always play out as we would like.  As women we lose ourselves too often and we become who we are not on the inside, because our societal role has always been to keep the peace,  keep the home, and raise the kids. I guess I’m wondering how far we have actually ventured out on our own. When I look at commercials, movies, and many television shows, those roles are still very much a part of our culture. I in no way want to indicate that women and men should be so equal that we live in an androgynous society.  I love it when a man opens a door for me and believe to this day that the man should always kill the bugs.   My hope though, is that we at the least start to recognize that there is still inequality being shown to us in multiple ways and that we give our own equality away when we try to make ourselves something we are not, because of some societal belief that we have to be beautiful, young, and for some…kept.   I have watched all week as people spoke out against bigotry at Chic-fil-a.  As I watched the argument unfold though, I wanted to say to everyone that rights and equality are being exploited by a multitude of organizations, upon multiple groups. The criminal justice system is not fair and equal, neither are our public schools, universities, churches, and work places. If you look close enough you see bigotry and the acceptance of that bigotry everywhere. To the women however, I do believe this is in our hands. We are not just the sum of our physical parts and maybe one day we will stand up to that image of the two dimensional image of the beauty queen, the concubine, and the bitch.

I have been watching the HBO drama, “Boardwalk Empire.” It depicts women as many of them were in that time in history.  It shows women as frail, uneducated, dumbed down by men, sex toys for the pleasure of many, house maidens, and disposable. I personally do not want to return to that era of ignorance any more than an African American wants to return to the Pre-Civil War era. I encourage all of you to vote in November. Too many women fought for our right to have it and by not doing it, you put our fate in the hands of others. Vote for Barack. Vote for Mitt. Vote for Mickey Mouse for all I care but vote, because there are decisions that are being made right now that will impact the fate of all women for generations to come.


P.S. Please stop watching the shows that destroy our image and just reinforce the perception of the beauty queen, the concubine, and the bitch.  If you need a list please see below and feel free to add your own.

The Kardashians
Jersey Shore
Dance Moms
Toddlers and Tiaras
Basketball Wives
Teen Moms
The Bachelor or The Bachelorette
Bad Girls 1-45
Girlfriend Confidential
Jersey Couture
Love Games
America’s Supernanny
Cheerleader Nation

We are humankind

We are not boy and girl…we are human.

We are not American, Russian, French, English…we are human.

We share the world as one organism connected together.

We are human!

The human project states just that…and asks:

What if we came together as a collective voice….what could we do, what could we create, what could we accomplish?

If we came together as one collective voice we could and will change the world.

What do you think?

Men’s pledge to not commit violence

This another post from the group.

This is a great site to watch.

Men’s pledge to not commit violence.

The post is all about how men need to stand up.

Men…we are the leaders of the future.

Men…boys look up to us and do everything we do.  There’s a cute commercial where the son is watching dad and he does everything dad does.  He plops down on the couch, he puts his feet up on the coffee table, he puts his hands in his pants, and he drinks a soda….all at the same time as dad.


If you are a man reading this…this is the power you have.

You are the leader, you are the one that the boys are watching. What you stand for, how you see things, and the things you do will be followed to the T.

So men…pick something to stand for and stand up for it.

Stand up for no more violence.

Stand up for no more abuse towards women.

Stand up for the green movement

Stand up and do something about the problems of the world…and the boys who follow you will too!

Positives from a DV prevention class

This article is on and it speak of the awesome things that can come out of merely teaching and speaking to people about changing the way they see the world and do things to people.

Positives from a DV prevention class.

So many times we see people act in ways that we know in our heart of hearts is just not right…but we don’t say anything.

Think of the teachable moments. Think of the ways upon ways that a person can be taught.

Everyone in this world are doing the best they can in the situation they are in. You don’t know how they were raised, you don’t know what they were taught…you’re only seeing the end result of years of socialization, conditioning and teaching.

Look past the behavior, educate the person, and you’d be surprised what you will find. This blog post shows just that!

Men and the country asking everyone to stop the abuse


Our president….our VP…..and so many others all asking every man in the world to stop the abuse.

Stop the violence toward women.

Stop the violence period.

Let’s join them to end this violence!

3 issues that need to be solved!

So, as I meet and speak to people there are a number of reoccurring thoughts and ideas that keep coming back to me.

1st – People want the violence to end.

2nd – People want people to stop polluting and destroying the word in any way that will harm the earth.

3rd – People want to be seen as equal. Down with the racism, ageism, gender inequality, and discrimination of all people.

These are the three most often complained about causes, and the the 3 most heart felt causes fromt he students and adults i speak with.

Therefore, these ideas have to constantly reappear on this blog to inspire and motivate others to help change these grossly important issues.

Therefore, you will see many posts on these things. You will see many ways we can stop these things. You will also see many companies and people that are working toward ending these things.

In the end – if we don’t stop hurting the earth…we will have no place to live.

In the end – if we don’t stop hurting each other – we will run out of people and hope.

In the end – if we don’t stop discriminating – there will be only more violence to respond to the hurt.